A bride fit for a king

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It was 1:45 am and the knock on my door had pulled me out of my deep sleep. “Who could that be?” I was curious because I was expecting no one at this hour. I swung my feet to the marble floor and made my way downstairs. My heart throbbing in fear and my weight on the balls of my feet.

As I approached towards the door, the knocking became more intense. I thought of ghosts. I thought of thieves.

Peeking through the blinds I saw a figure. Then the figure became two figures and then many figures. I could barely recognize any, but my lover. In the dark stillness, he shone. He was dressed in a royal apparel. For a second, I couldn’t take my eyes off him.

A cold shiver went down my spine. He said he would come for me in a short time but I wasn’t expecting him to come now. “Why so soon? ” This was time for no questions. “My dress, my w-wedding dress! I ran upstairs and hurriedly put it on. It was torn and had oil stains.
I quickly descended down the stairs, my dress brushing against the floor.

“Open to me my heartbeat”. It was the voice of my lover. “I have put everything in order. Father is waiting. The guests are all seated. Open quickly for time is not on our side “.

I can’t wait for us to spend forever together baby.” He added, excitement in his voice.

I turned the door knob and pulled open the door. Like a fading rainbow, his smile slowly vanished, on seeing me.

I attempted to kiss his lips but he withdrew himself for my body smelled like piss and my breath smelled like I’d gargled with rotten tomato juice.

His lips parted but no words came out.

“W-what happened to y-you? ” He asked in a teary voice.
The d-dress I made for you, why is it torn?
Why does it have stains on it?

He looked at my finger, my ring was missing. “Where have you kept the ring I gave you? ” his voice was as brittle as the first ice of autumn.

A tear brimmed in his eyes. He tried to hold back but it broke free and splashed on his cheek.

I watched the pure unwavering love he had for me dissipate from his eyes. All that was left was disappointment.

I tilted my head downwards, unwilling to look him in the eye.

“I can’t…I can’t take you with me. How can you walk down the aisle in this state? You are unfit for a king ”

“My l-love, I c-can fix this. Just give me time ” I said while I attempted to wipe off the stains on my dress with a towel.

“You had all the time… It’s too late ” he shook his head. “You no longer have any part in me “.


The bride is the church and the lover is Christ.

When He returns, he hopes to meet a bride spotless


without blemishes,

without wrinkles (Eph 5:27), 



Will we be READY… OR NOT ?


Lots of love ❤





Spiritual burnout|lessons from Martha

Have you ever experienced an emotional roller coaster ride that no one else seemed to have  recognized?

Ever found yourself at the verge of giving up because you felt the workload was just too much?

Have you ever lost the spiritual zeal to carry on God’s work?

“I’m tired and frustrated.  I can’t do this anymore!” Is that you?

Most times it is because we have actually let our WORK for him overshadow our WALK with him. We spend our time trying to be so busy for him that we have no time to spend alone with God.

Martha was at the verge of spiritual burnout in her Christian walk with God.

38-40 As they continued their travel, Jesus entered a village. A woman by the name of Martha welcomed him and made him feel quite at home. She had a sister, Mary, who sat before the Master, hanging on every word he said. But Martha was pulled away by all she had to do in the kitchen. Later, she stepped in, interrupting them. “Master, don’t you care that my sister has abandoned the kitchen to me? Tell her to lend me a hand.”

41-42 The Master said, “Martha, dear Martha, you’re fussing far too much and getting yourself worked up over nothing. One thing only is essential, and Mary has chosen it—it’s the main course, and won’t be taken from her.”

Martha was tired and frustrated. The heat from the kitchen was choking her. Here’s why;

She was laboring outside of Christ. But Martha was pulled away by all she had to do in the kitchen. Jesus was in the living room while Martha was in the kitchen.  We become spiritually burned out when we do not labor in fellowship with Christ!

Can a branch bear fruits on its own?  No way! The branch has to abide in the vine to be able to bear fruits.  Abide in Me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit [a]of itself unless it abides in the vine, so neither can you unless you abide in Me.

A branch when detached from its vine wears out/dries up. We become exhausted, frustrated when we detach ourselves from the true vine and try to bear fruit on our own.

When you run a car without oil, you burn up the engine quickly. So is our christian life, we burn out quickly when we detach ourselves from our source of oil. We need to always stay connected (to the vine) to be able to receive that inexhaustible supply of fuel.

Martha was trying to pull the plow herself rather than resting in God. We get spiritually burned out when we try to take up God’s work with our own strength. We are to work under God’s power and strength rather than in our own strength.

She allowed her service for God take the place of intimacy with Him. Unlike Mary, Martha did not understand the importance of spending time with God. She was all about wanting to DO something for Jesus that she forgot the need to BE with Jesus. When our service for God takes place of intimacy with Him we tend to experience burnout.

Just as a car needs to be continually refueled, we ourselves need to be refreshed and this can only happen when we spend time with God.

One of the signs that you are at the verge of burnout is when you begin to work out of obligation, frustration and not from a heart of worship.

28-30 “Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you’ll recover your life. I’ll show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me—watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won’t lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me and you’ll learn to live freely and lightly.”

Matthew 11:28-30 (MSG)

Tired? Frustrated? Worn out? It’s time to get reconnected to the vine! 😄


Song recommendation: Draw by Victoria Orenze 👉HERE

Thanks for stopping by 😘😘😘

Remain blessed! ❤

In Love,



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Review: Prayers for your future husband by Frances Okoro

Some years ago, I met a friend who told me she prays for her future husband. I thought it was ridiculous. How could one possibly be praying for a man whose name she does not yet know? I also had to remind her I was just 16! It was too early to start praying for my future husband.

Going through the pages of this book – prayers for your future husband (which I stumbled on) I began to see  things in a different light. I came to realize that it is never too early to start praying for your future husband. Your prayer goes a long way in  preparing him to become a husband even before you meet him!

Prayers for your future husband is a powerful book that I believe will raise a generation of women that are praying women.

There’s something about this book that draws you intermittently into prayer and into a place of intimacy with the father (who is our first husband).
It is a Must-READ for every woman who desire a marriage after God’s own heart.

Most times we spend time worrying about ‘the one’ but this book encourages us to spend more time praying rather than worrying.
Matthew 6:27 New International Version (NIV)
27 Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?

Your desire to get married is valid and God
Himself knows that marriage is good, but a spouse can never take the place of God in your life.
(prayers for your future husband)

So many young women struggle with loneliness, emptiness and they delve into marriage; trying to fill that void with a man. In this book, Frances encourages singles to find true satisfaction in Christ (my sister blogger wrote on this topic 😍 HERE ). He is our first husband and He alone can fill the void no man can fill. We have to be immensely satisfied with Him and in Him.

This book is filled with so much wisdom and practical insights and is such a great companion from now until you say ‘I do’ (even after). At the end of each chapter is a section titled “your armour of truth” which contains bible passages that can be spoken out loud concerning the specific area you are praying about. Isn’t that cool?

I really loved the ‘personal love letters’ section. In this section you can write down whatever comes to mind as you pray or every other prayer points the Lord directs you to pray along the way.

While we pray for our spouse we also have to prepare to be a help meet. A chapter in this book  contains prayer for the wife – You & me 😄. It brought so much insight to me on what to pray for concerning myself as a future wife( a wife after God’s own heart).

In a society driven by finding ‘the one’, prayers for your future husband will help you slow down and pray for the man your future husband is becoming.
This book is recommended to all those that desire a kingdom marriage (single/married ) – homes where the altar fire burns continually.

The enemy is out to attack marriages, and one of our greatest weapon is PRAYER!

If you are a man reading this, I believe you can pray for your future wife as well (if you are already doing so, don’t stop praying for her ❤).

Thank you sister Frances for letting God birth this book through you.

Do not think that your prayers accomplish
nothing; in the James 5:16 passage above, we are
assured that every heartfelt prayer from a believer
accomplishes much in the hand of God.

“It is dynamic and can have tremendous power.” (Prayers for your future husband) 

As you pray for your future husband, you are sowing seeds into his life. You may not see the fruits now but soon when you meet him, you will recognize him by the prayers  you have made for him. 

With Love,


Remain blessed!!! ❤❤❤



The author also wrote a journal – Prayers for your future husband journal which was birth from the main book “Prayers for your future husband”. It consists of  a 21-day prayers for your future husband challenge. Visit her page – www.hephzibahfrances.com for more inquiries.

This thing called Jealousy

(**clears cobwebs and clears throat ** I know. It’s been a while 🙈.)

As a kid traveling was one of the things I always looked forward to probably because it was just once in a year – for Christmas. The preparation & the journey were always more exciting than the destination itself 😁.

I had just finished packing my bags. This time it wasn’t for Christmas but for my aunt’s wedding. I was going to be the little bride – for the very first time so my heart was full. My excitement turned sour when I heard I would no longer be the little bride because they felt I was too old for it. I was unhappy. Anyone could tell by the look in my eyes.


A sharp pang of jealousy rushed through me  as the little bride walked around on that day ‘doing shakara’ (shakara means to make a show off). All attention was on her. Within me, I wished her dress or hair would ruin. (Ohh how would I have thought of that as a little child🙈).

I kept on wishing it was me all through (talk about jealousy issues , Lol).

Have you ever felt that way at some point in time too?
Or probably  found yourself becoming depressed when you heard your friend got a new car?
Or caught yourself saying, “congratulations bro” wearing a falsely tight-laced smile while inwardly resenting his blessing and wishing it was you.
“Why is she always favored? Why is everything always going well for him?” – ever caught yourself saying that?

Most times you want to be happy for them but then you look at your own life ( it is probably something you have always wanted and have been praying for but haven’t gotten yet) and all of a sudden that sharp stab of jealousy pierces your heart and engulfs your entire being which in turn weakens your smile.
Subconsciously you may begin to believe  that God is unfair or that He doesn’t love you as much as He loves others.

But is God really unfair? Of course not! Does He love some people more than He loves others? Definitely not!


The prodigal son’s older brother felt the exact way as well (Luke 15).

25 “Now his older son was in the field; and when he returned and approached the house, he heard music and dancing. 26 So he summoned one of the servants and began asking what this [celebration] meant. 27 And he said to him, ‘Your brother has come, and your father has killed the fattened calf because he has received him back safe and sound.’ 28 But the elder brother became angry and deeply resentful and was not willing to go in; and his father came out and began pleading with him.

Just a side one – How many times have we gotten upset when someone else gets what we feel they don’t deserve or what we feel we deserve?  Oh sister K used to sleep around before she gave her life to Christ, I have kept my self all this while but look she’s getting married before me. I studied so hard for this test. Kemi barely studied but she passed excellently and I did not.

A vortex of anger swirled inside the older brother, rising to choke him when he heard a party was being thrown for his younger brother. In a fit of jealousy, he refused to go in.

If we take a look at the next verse we will notice that the father had to remind him of who he was and of his inheritance
31 The father said to him, ‘Son, you are always with me, and all that is mine is yours.

When we understand who we are, what we have in Christ and completely TRUST in his ability to do what is best in his own sovereign way, we will see that we would have no reason whatsoever to be jealous when he blesses our brother / sister.


This thing called jealousy blinds us to the mercy and love of God in our own lives. When we are all about other people’s blessings and how it seems God loves them more than He loves us  we fail to see his mercy and love in our own lives.

This thing called jealousy can be destructive as well. It may all start as a little pang in the chest when you heard “Uche is getting married!” but these ‘little seeds’ if not dealt with are capable of growing into giant weeds (hatred, murder etc)  destroying the good plant.

The reason Cain killed his brother was because he was envious that God accepted his brother’s sacrifice but not his (Gen 4). One of the reasons Joseph’s brothers threw him into the pit was because of jealousy (Gen 37). We may not go as far as physically harming our brother/sister but we can actually assassinate their characters with gossips, bad words and so on.

A true test of jealousy is to ask yourself these questions :
If God blesses my brother/sister more than me can I truly be happy for him?
If my brother receives a greater reward for doing the same thing I have been doing for a long time can I truly celebrate with him?
If my sister receives what I have always desired, can I genuinely be happy for her?

This jealousy thing is not a fruit of the holy spirit hence should not be found in our garden.

Prayer: Lord help me replace any jealous or envious feelings. Help me trust in your ability to do what is best in your own sovereign way.

Have you ever been jealous /envious of your brother/sister? How did you deal with it? (Feel free to share in the comment section 😄).  Whenever I feel that heart thud when someone else receives that which I have always wanted, I make an intentional effort to celebrate that person’s blessings and pray for more blessing.

Thanks for stopping by today ❤Remain blessed!😘😘😘

In love,


Thy brother’s killer or keeper??


I remember being so down one evening. I laid on my bed like a wounded warrior or let’s say I was actually wounded. I couldn’t pray… yeah, the enemy really hit me so hard. I reached out to a friend… because that was all I could do at that moment. I can never forget my friend’s words, not even in a hurry. “That’s why we have one another – to pray for one another and to pray with one another ” She said. Trust me those words were so reassuring! I felt so blessed to have sibling’s keeper – someone who was looking out for me. A couple of times more, I have had friends check up on me. I also remember when a friend told me “you know, I do put you in my prayers “. Oh what joy I felt in my heart that someone actually does remember me in prayers. Now this is what being our brother’s keeper is all about. Yeah,  strengthening one another, being on the lookout for one another, praying for one another and so on.
As God’s children it’s our responsibility to be on the lookout for our brother. Yeah…God demands that from us.

Philippians 2:4 (ESV) teaches us to have one another’s interest at heart.
4 Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.

A biblical story that comes to mind when we talk about being thy brother’s keeper is that of Cain and Abel (genesis 4).
9 Then the Lord said to Cain, “Where is your brother Abel?”

“I don’t know,” he replied. “Am I my brother’s keeper?”

We all know of how Cain was unbothered about his brother’s well-being. When he was asked to give an account of his brother’s whereabout his response showed lack of love and concern. If we put it another way, his response was… “I’m not responsible for my brother’s well-being. He is on his own. ” Hold on.. don’t judge him yet. We may not be guilty of ever using that same phrase but countless times our actions and words actually insinuate that we care less.  From the same chapter we also know the story of how he killed his brother Abel. You might be quick to say well I’m not guilty of killing anyone like he did  but how many times have we been satisfied to sit nonchalantly and watch our fellow warrior die? When we neglect our brother that is down we actually give the enemy a chance to  have more grip on them.

Beautiful one, that sister that is no longer on fire for God instead of making fun of how she was unable to lead prayers in church on Sunday why not lift her up in prayers. That church worker that was suspended in church, instead of telling everyone what he did, why don’t you pray for him. Instead of gossiping with your friends about that brother that has stopped attending church why not check up on him and know why. We should be our brother’s keepers.

When your fellow warrior gets wounded in the battlefield, don’t stand and watch him die lend a helping hand.


As true Christians, we should lift one another up instead of bringing each other down. 

Thanks for stopping by today ❤. Remain blessed 😘😘😘.

In love,



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Identity crisis… who really am I😖?

Everyday I spend a lot of time staring at the mirror to see who is there …
Sometimes I see a different person
Sometimes I see someone familiar yet strange. I tried to fit in but then they said I did not belong there. Like a cloak I have put on an identity that is based on their perception of me. Who really am I?  Well, I have no clue! 


Dear beautiful one🌹,

Your identity is not in who others say you are but in Christ (Col 3:3).

When we talk about identity crisis, we talk about being uncertain of who we truly are. We begin to ask questions like “who am I? ” “what’s my purpose?” and so on.  This can make us to begin to seek our identity in the wrong places. We see ourselves trying to fit in. We begin to allow our surroundings/circumstances to define us.

Who are you in Christ?

You are an heir of God and a joint-heir with Christ Jesus (Rom8:17)
You are the fragrance of Christ (2Cor2:15)
You are God’s friend (John15:15)
You are free from condemnation (Rom8:1)
You are free in Christ (Rom8:2)
You are a chosen generation (1Peter2:9)

You are all these and much more 😍!

Revelation of your identity leads to the fulfilment of your divine purpose.

When you know who you are, you will be able to fulfil your divine purpose. You will begin to live as Christ would have you live.

You need to know this… Your past  does not define you!  

2Cor 5:17: Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new. 

Yeah, let that sink in😄. You are a new creature. You have a new identity. In Christ you have no past! How beautiful is that 😄? So you don’t have to dwell in your past. God doesn’t want you to. Also, when we begin to dwell on our past mistakes or current circumstances, we give those things the power to define us.

You ought to see yourself the way God sees you. How you see yourself matters a lot. When you begin to see yourself the way God sees you, it changes the way you live.

Our identity is hidden in Christ with God (Col 3:3). When we take our eyes off Christ and begin to focus on other things and seek our identity in the wrong places we keep ourselves off the true path of our purpose.

Where, other than in Christ  have you tried to find your identity? Where have you been trying to fit in lately? The only place you need to fit in is in Christ.

In order to know who you are, you have to know who He is.  Don’t know Him yet?  It is not too late to know Him darling 😍.

Thanks for stopping by today 😘😘😘. Remain  blessed ❤

Song recommendation : I know who I am by Sinach 👉Here




When our identity is blank, we allow everyone and everything else fill in that blank space. 


I let my guard down!

What seemed to be a nap turned into a deep sleep. I was awakened by the sound of feet crunching gravel against the ground. Without even looking up I knew whatever was approaching was so close. Each footstep rang out like a booming heartbeat of a criminal that has just been sentenced to death. As I looked up I was staring at a leopard 🐆. I avoided his gaze at all costs while I attempted to move backwards but my legs were too heavy to move. I laid there on the grass, utterly still. I could hear my heart beating at each step he took forward. “Karen! ” I called out to my friend but she was in deep sleep.
I turned to reach out for my rifle but it was nowhere to be found. I looked around only to see it leaning against a tree several miles away. At this point it dawned on me that there was probably no way out for me. How did I let my guard down? How did I sleep off when I was supposed to be watchful?

Hi beautiful one! How ya doing?😄

The enemy is always on duty 24/7 and as Christians we ought to be prepared at all times. Yeah, we have to always keep our guard up.

1 Peter 5:8

8 Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour:(KJV)

Keep a cool head. Stay alert. The Devil is poised to pounce, and would like nothing better than to catch you napping. (MSG)

So many of us have fallen into deep sleep. Some have been awakened by unexpected crisis while some are still in deep sleep without even realizing it. Like a lullaby 🎶 the enemy has used distractions, pursuit of vanity etc to send a lot of us to sleep.
It is time to rise from our sleep!

1 Thessalonians 5:6 (NIV) 6 So then, let us not be like others, who are asleep, but let us be awake and sober.

The enemy detects vulnerability in his preys.
Mountain lions are opportunistic hunters. They detect vulnerability in their preys and take advantage of circumstances. The enemy uses the same tactics to attack God’s children as well. No wonder the Bible tells us to put on the whole armor of God to be able to stand against the wiles of the devil.

Ephesians 6:13-17 (NIV)

13 Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. 14 Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place,15 and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. 16 In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. 17 Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit,which is the word of God.

Just like it is essential to always put on a life jacket while out on open waters( because it is very difficult to do so when there’s an emergency), we have to put on the whole armor of God to stay prepared.
Thanks for stopping by today 😄. Remain blessed 😘😘😘

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