Intentional spiritual growth|Be intentional

2018 done and dusted!

It was a full year. Lots of lessons learned.  It was a year my faith in God was greatly tested.

Here we are in 2019. What are your plans for the year? I’m sure you already have plans for the year.

Any spiritual growth goals?

Wait, you never thought to include that in your plans for the year? Yes, it as much important as any other goal you may have included in your vision board for the year.

Just as every parent expects his/her child to grow, God expects us to grow too.


Towards the end of last year, God began to speak to me about intentional spiritual growth. Yes. Spiritual growth don’t just happen. We must be intentional about it. It doesn’t just happen because you have been a Christian for 5 years or 10 years or even for 15 years. In fact, though by this time you ought to be teachers, you need someone to teach you the elementary truths of God’s word all over again. You need milk, not solid food! Heb 5:12

In order to grow spiritually, you have to first

Desire to grow spiritually

Decide to grow spiritually

and then make deliberate efforts to achieve that.

How do you go about it?

Spend time with God daily : Take out time to talk to God and also listen to Him on a daily basis. When we begin to spend time with God we begin to think like Him and act like Him. Jesus was intentional about spending time with God.


Spend MORE time with God : We need to spend MORE time with God than with anything else.

God shouldn’t fit into our ‘busy’ lives. Our ‘busy’ lives should fit into God.


Invest in your spirit daily / feed your spirit with good food : Recently I wrote on a topic : Eating healthy   In order to grow spiritually, we need to feed our spirit man with good food. Make deliberate efforts to listen to music, read books that will edify you!

Journaling. Recently I read a few benefits of journaling  and I have decided to start journaling. I recommend you do so too. You can do so daily or weekly. It records your growth in your Christian walk.

Find an accountability partner. Find someone or a group of friends with whom you can grow with.  Just as the Bible says  As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another (Prov27:17). You can pray and ask God for the right partner or group.



so that you will walk in a manner worthy of the Lord [displaying admirable character, moral courage, and personal integrity], to [fully] please Him in all things, bearing fruit in every good work and steadily growing in the knowledge of God [with deeper faith, clearer insight and fervent love for His precepts]; Col 1:10


I pray you begin to live intentionally

Blessings 💕


3.2.1. Quote Me challenge

Hey fam❤,

So the amazing Tosin of Alethea’s mind tagged me on the 3.2.1. Quote Me challenge. (Heyy Tosin 😍). I recommend you check out her blog. Here’s the link : Alethea’s mindTrust me, you will be glad you did.

The Rules Of This Challenge Are As Follows:

• Thank the Selector

• Post 2 quotes for the dedicated topic of the day

• Select 3 bloggers to take part in ‘3.2.1 Quote Me!’

• Give them a topic/word

Thank you very much Tosin. I really appreciate your thoughtfulness ❤.

So the word for this challenge is HEAVEN.


My home is in heaven. I’m just traveling through this world.        – Billy Graham


The one stairway to heaven is Christ.  – The father’s girl

Here are my nominees :

  1. Mindful of me moments
  2. Danny
  3. Quinny J

Your word for this challenge is TRUTH.

N.B: it’s okay if you choose not to do it. If you choose to do it, feel free to do it at your convenient time❤. 


Blessings 💕


What do you feed yourself? || Eating healthy.


Food is essential. Food is what we eat to survive. You’ll agree with me that in as much as food nourishes our body, there are unhealthy ones – ‘junk food’ which are bad for our health.

Today we will be talking about food for our hearts and minds. Yes, what we feed our hearts and minds is just as important as what we feed our body. There are foods that can build you up spiritually and there are those foods that can cause  harm to your spiritual health!

I have been studying the book of Daniel of late and the first chapter of this book actually talks about how Daniel made a decision not to defile himself.

3 And the king spake unto Ashpenaz the master of his eunuchs, that he should bring certain of the children of Israel, and of the king’s seed, and of the princes;
4 Children in whom was no blemish, but well favoured, and skilful in all wisdom, and cunning in knowledge, and understanding science, and such as had ability in them to stand in the king’s palace, and whom they might teach the learning and the tongue of the Chaldeans.
5 And the king appointed them a daily provision of the king’s meat, and of the wine which he drank: so nourishing them three years, that at the end thereof they might stand before the king.
6 Now among these were of the children of Judah, Daniel, Hananiah, Mishael, and Azariah:
7 Unto whom the prince of the eunuchs gave names: for he gave unto Daniel the name of Belteshazzar; and to Hananiah, of Shadrach; and to Mishael, of Meshach; and to Azariah, of Abednego.
8 But Daniel purposed in his heart that he would not defile himself with the portion of the king’s meat, nor with the wine which he drank: therefore he requested of the prince of the eunuchs that he might not defile himself.

Daniel refused to defile himself.
You may probably be wondering, isn’t this just food? No big deal. No! To Daniel it was more than just food. He understood his body was God’s temple and he wasn’t going to let anything pollute it.

1 Cor 6:19; Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own.

Daniel knew not to allow just anything into his body.
Just like Daniel, do we consider what we take into our bodies?
Do what we read, listen to (on radio) and watch on television matter?
How about the music we listen to?
Do we consider the people we surround ourselves with, the jokes we listen to even the gossips?
What do we feed our inner man on a daily basis?
We are what we eat. I have learned that what comes out of us is only a product of what goes inside of us. If you take in trash, you will give out trash.

Notice in verse 5 that these foods were offered to them? In the world today, you don’t need to go extra mile to get these junk foods, they are being offered to us daily (at our workplace, in our neighborhood, the internet) but we can always choose to say, No thanks, I’ll pass. Yes, some of these foods may be appealing to us, the aroma – irresistible  but they can cause harm to our spiritual health.

When we feed our hearts and minds with junk foods we will end up contaminating the people around us with our toxic farts!

We need to be selective in what we eat.

Daniel was in the palace but he refused to defile himself with the kings food. Like Daniel, we can choose not to defile ourselves with the junk food the world offers us daily.


Have you been eating healthy of late or do you need a change of diet?

Blessings 💕💕





Resting in God.


Anxious. Frustrated. Drained.

You’ve been trying to figure out how things would work out but the more you try, the more frustrated you get.

Oh no, you have a deadline to meet, nothing seems to be working and time is no longer on your side – you are fussing.

“I’m probably not doing enough. I need to do more. ”

Most times all we need to do is REST.

Luke 10: 41-42

41-42 The Master said, “Martha, dear Martha, you’re fussing far too much and getting yourself worked up over nothing. One thing only is essential, and Mary has chosen it—it’s the main course, and won’t be taken from her.”

So many times we  want to have everything figured out. We want to try to make it happen. We feel God is not doing enough so we need to make a MOVE.

The thing is this: it is not in our place to figure out how things would work out. It is not our job to try to make things happen. All He wants us to do is to BE STILL & trust that He is able.

When we feel the need to do much and begin to try to make things work we are indirectly saying “God I don’t trust you. I don’t think you can do this, so I think I need to help you. ”

The rest of God is not a rest from work – it is a rest from striving outside of Him. 

Can you imagine trying to push a truck yourself? You will end up worn out and frustrated. Now imagine sitting in the truck while someone else drives it. How relaxing  right? That’s what happens when we rest in God! When we rest in God, we are no more trying to push the truck ourselves, we are simply sitting in the truck with God and trusting Him to drive.

In rest, there’s no worry, frustration or anxiety. In rest, your peace is assured.


Matthew 11:28-29

28 Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls.


Song recommendation : Enter the rest of God by Brian Doerksen 👉 Here

Blessings 💕




Versatile Blogger Award


So I was nominated for the Versatile blogger award by the amazing  Tosin of Alethea’s mind. This is my first ever blogger award, so thank you  very  much Tosin for the nomination! I’m truly honored and humbled.

I greatly recommend you check out her awesome blog if you haven’t : I’m always blessed and blown away by her posts.

Here are the rules for the award:

  • Thank the person who nominated you.
  • Include a link to their blog in your post.
  • Share 7 facts about yourself.
  • Nominate 15 bloggers of your choosing to keep spreading the love.

7 facts about me


  • I am Nigerian (Igbo precisely)
  • I would be graduating from medical school in a couple of months.
  • I’m terrified of anything that flies (most especially moths)
  • I’d rather be behind the camera than in front of it.
  • One of my favorite things to do is cook. I love trying out new recipes.
  • I left Nigeria at the age of 16 (haven’t visited since then).
  • My favorite Nigerian meal is fufu with ogbono soup.

My Nominees for the Versatile Blogger Award are:

Thank you once again Tosin!!!

In love,

Julia 💕


To the nominees: it’s okay if you don’t feel like doing this. If you decide to participate, feel free to do it your own way. 💕💕💕


I can’t hear you.

HER: I can’t hear-r y-you!!! 🔊

HIM: it’s noisyyy, can you…

HER: I can’t hear youuuuu!!!

HIM: please turn down the…

HER: I c-can’t h-hear youuuuuuuu!!!



How can you hear God speak when the VOICE OF DISTRACTION is louder than the voice of God?

How can you hear God speak when the VOICE OF DOUBT  is louder than the voice of God?

We can’t hear Him when we are too far away from Him.

We can’t hear Him when our voices are louder than His.

God is always speaking.

He is still speaking. The question is : can you hear Him?


Blessings 💕




Song recommendation : Be quiet by TY Bello Here

A GOOD thing or a GOD thing?


Hey fam. This post has been a long time coming! It has been sitting in my draft box for over a month now. When this topic was dropped in my heart to write on, I’d scribbled some words but it ended there. For some reasons I never got to pick it up again until now.

A couple of months ago, I was involved in something I felt was good – well it actually was or so I’d thought. It was something I had always desired so when it came I thought  to myself – this is it. I jumped at it without even thinking or praying about it. With time I realized that despite the fact  it was a good thing, it wasn’t what God wanted for me. The more I clung to it in a bid to convince myself and God – that it was a God thing, the more God gave me every reason to let go of it.

This brings me to the gist for today : a good thing or a God thing?

Not every good thing is a God thing.

The fact that something seems good doesn’t mean that is what God wants for you. 

In acts 16, Paul and his companions had decided to go preach the word at a certain place but the Spirit of God did not allow them.

6 Paul and his companions traveled throughout the region of Phrygia and Galatia, having been kept by the Holy Spirit from preaching the word in the province of Asia. 7 When they came to the border of Mysia, they tried to enter Bithynia, but the Spirit of Jesus would not allow them to. 8 So they passed by Mysia and went down to Troas.  9 During the night Paul had a vision of a man of Macedonia standing and begging him, “Come over to Macedonia and help us.”10 After Paul had seen the vision, we got ready at once to leave for Macedonia, concluding that God had called us to preach the gospel to them.

Was it a good thing to go preach the word at that particular place? Definitely yes! But was it what God wanted for them?  No.

Despite the fact that it was a good thing for Paul and his companions to go preach the gospel in Asia and Bithynia, it wasn’t what God wanted for them.  God had a different plan for them.10 After Paul had seen the vision, we got ready at once to leave for Macedonia, concluding that God had called us to preach the gospel to them. 

Now here comes the importance of always seeking God in all we do.

That offer at your workplace or that job offer you got may be good but is it what God wants for you?

Your relationship may seem so good, but what if it is not God’s will for you?

As a believer, you may want to involve yourself in so many things out of love for God, which is good. But what if God is calling you at that moment to focus on a particular thing?

The question to always ask is: Is this a good thing or a GOD thing?


If it is a not a GOD thing, it is a distraction! Yes, while that business deal, scholarship, job offer – you name it may be a good thing if it is not what God wants it might get in the way of that which he has set aside for you.

We have to learn to discern. If we are not careful, we can actually allow the good things to distract us from God’s best.

I’ve also learned that the enemy can bring counterfeits your way to distract you from God’s original.


If you happen to be at a point right now where you are considering saying yes to that offer or whatsoever it may be – take a moment, breath deeply and ask God – what are you saying concerning this?. The best yes is yes to what God wants.

Blessings 💕💕




Learned anything from this post? Feel free to share in the comment section.

A bride fit for a king

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It was 1:45 am and the knock on my door had pulled me out of my deep sleep. “Who could that be?” I was curious because I was expecting no one at this hour. I swung my feet to the marble floor and made my way downstairs. My heart throbbing in fear and my weight on the balls of my feet.

As I approached towards the door, the knocking became more intense. I thought of ghosts. I thought of thieves.

Peeking through the blinds I saw a figure. Then the figure became two figures and then many figures. I could barely recognize any, but my lover. In the dark stillness, he shone. He was dressed in a royal apparel. For a second, I couldn’t take my eyes off him.

A cold shiver went down my spine. He said he would come for me in a short time but I wasn’t expecting him to come now. “Why so soon? ” This was time for no questions. “My dress, my w-wedding dress! I ran upstairs and hurriedly put it on. It was torn and had oil stains.
I quickly descended down the stairs, my dress brushing against the floor.

“Open to me my heartbeat”. It was the voice of my lover. “I have put everything in order. Father is waiting. The guests are all seated. Open quickly for time is not on our side “.

I can’t wait for us to spend forever together baby.” He added, excitement in his voice.

I turned the door knob and pulled open the door. Like a fading rainbow, his smile slowly vanished, on seeing me.

I attempted to kiss his lips but he withdrew himself for my body smelled like piss and my breath smelled like I’d gargled with rotten tomato juice.

His lips parted but no words came out.

“W-what happened to y-you? ” He asked in a teary voice.
The d-dress I made for you, why is it torn?
Why does it have stains on it?

He looked at my finger, my ring was missing. “Where have you kept the ring I gave you? ” his voice was as brittle as the first ice of autumn.

A tear brimmed in his eyes. He tried to hold back but it broke free and splashed on his cheek.

I watched the pure unwavering love he had for me dissipate from his eyes. All that was left was disappointment.

I tilted my head downwards, unwilling to look him in the eye.

“I can’t…I can’t take you with me. How can you walk down the aisle in this state? You are unfit for a king ”

“My l-love, I c-can fix this. Just give me time ” I said while I attempted to wipe off the stains on my dress with a towel.

“You had all the time… It’s too late ” he shook his head. “You no longer have any part in me “.


The bride is the church and the lover is Christ.

When He returns, he hopes to meet a bride spotless


without blemishes,

without wrinkles (Eph 5:27), 



Will we be READY… OR NOT ?


Lots of love ❤




Spiritual burnout|lessons from Martha

Have you ever experienced an emotional roller coaster ride that no one else seemed to have  recognized?

Ever found yourself at the verge of giving up because you felt the workload was just too much?

Have you ever lost the spiritual zeal to carry on God’s work?

“I’m tired and frustrated.  I can’t do this anymore!” Is that you?

Most times it is because we have actually let our WORK for him overshadow our WALK with him. We spend our time trying to be so busy for him that we have no time to spend alone with God.

Martha was at the verge of spiritual burnout in her Christian walk with God.

38-40 As they continued their travel, Jesus entered a village. A woman by the name of Martha welcomed him and made him feel quite at home. She had a sister, Mary, who sat before the Master, hanging on every word he said. But Martha was pulled away by all she had to do in the kitchen. Later, she stepped in, interrupting them. “Master, don’t you care that my sister has abandoned the kitchen to me? Tell her to lend me a hand.”

41-42 The Master said, “Martha, dear Martha, you’re fussing far too much and getting yourself worked up over nothing. One thing only is essential, and Mary has chosen it—it’s the main course, and won’t be taken from her.”

Martha was tired and frustrated. The heat from the kitchen was choking her. Here’s why;

She was laboring outside of Christ. But Martha was pulled away by all she had to do in the kitchen. Jesus was in the living room while Martha was in the kitchen.  We become spiritually burned out when we do not labor in fellowship with Christ!

Can a branch bear fruits on its own?  No way! The branch has to abide in the vine to be able to bear fruits.  Abide in Me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit [a]of itself unless it abides in the vine, so neither can you unless you abide in Me.

A branch when detached from its vine wears out/dries up. We become exhausted, frustrated when we detach ourselves from the true vine and try to bear fruit on our own.

When you run a car without oil, you burn up the engine quickly. So is our christian life, we burn out quickly when we detach ourselves from our source of oil. We need to always stay connected (to the vine) to be able to receive that inexhaustible supply of fuel.

Martha was trying to pull the plow herself rather than resting in God. We get spiritually burned out when we try to take up God’s work with our own strength. We are to work under God’s power and strength rather than in our own strength.

She allowed her service for God take the place of intimacy with Him. Unlike Mary, Martha did not understand the importance of spending time with God. She was all about wanting to DO something for Jesus that she forgot the need to BE with Jesus. When our service for God takes place of intimacy with Him we tend to experience burnout.

Just as a car needs to be continually refueled, we ourselves need to be refreshed and this can only happen when we spend time with God.

One of the signs that you are at the verge of burnout is when you begin to work out of obligation, frustration and not from a heart of worship.

28-30 “Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you’ll recover your life. I’ll show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me—watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won’t lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me and you’ll learn to live freely and lightly.”

Matthew 11:28-30 (MSG)

Tired? Frustrated? Worn out? It’s time to get reconnected to the vine! 😄


Song recommendation: Draw by Victoria Orenze 👉HERE

Thanks for stopping by 😘😘😘

Remain blessed! ❤

In Love,



Learned anything from this post? Feel free to share in the comment section. 

Review: Prayers for your future husband by Frances Okoro

Some years ago, I met a friend who told me she prays for her future husband. I thought it was ridiculous. How could one possibly be praying for a man whose name she does not yet know? I also had to remind her I was just 16! It was too early to start praying for my future husband.

Going through the pages of this book – prayers for your future husband (which I stumbled on) I began to see  things in a different light. I came to realize that it is never too early to start praying for your future husband. Your prayer goes a long way in  preparing him to become a husband even before you meet him!

Prayers for your future husband is a powerful book that I believe will raise a generation of women that are praying women.

There’s something about this book that draws you intermittently into prayer and into a place of intimacy with the father (who is our first husband).
It is a Must-READ for every woman who desire a marriage after God’s own heart.

Most times we spend time worrying about ‘the one’ but this book encourages us to spend more time praying rather than worrying.
Matthew 6:27 New International Version (NIV)
27 Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?

Your desire to get married is valid and God
Himself knows that marriage is good, but a spouse can never take the place of God in your life.
(prayers for your future husband)

So many young women struggle with loneliness, emptiness and they delve into marriage; trying to fill that void with a man. In this book, Frances encourages singles to find true satisfaction in Christ (my sister blogger wrote on this topic 😍 HERE ). He is our first husband and He alone can fill the void no man can fill. We have to be immensely satisfied with Him and in Him.

This book is filled with so much wisdom and practical insights and is such a great companion from now until you say ‘I do’ (even after). At the end of each chapter is a section titled “your armour of truth” which contains bible passages that can be spoken out loud concerning the specific area you are praying about. Isn’t that cool?

I really loved the ‘personal love letters’ section. In this section you can write down whatever comes to mind as you pray or every other prayer points the Lord directs you to pray along the way.

While we pray for our spouse we also have to prepare to be a help meet. A chapter in this book  contains prayer for the wife – You & me 😄. It brought so much insight to me on what to pray for concerning myself as a future wife( a wife after God’s own heart).

In a society driven by finding ‘the one’, prayers for your future husband will help you slow down and pray for the man your future husband is becoming.
This book is recommended to all those that desire a kingdom marriage (single/married ) – homes where the altar fire burns continually.

The enemy is out to attack marriages, and one of our greatest weapon is PRAYER!

If you are a man reading this, I believe you can pray for your future wife as well (if you are already doing so, don’t stop praying for her ❤).

Thank you sister Frances for letting God birth this book through you.

Do not think that your prayers accomplish
nothing; in the James 5:16 passage above, we are
assured that every heartfelt prayer from a believer
accomplishes much in the hand of God.

“It is dynamic and can have tremendous power.” (Prayers for your future husband) 

As you pray for your future husband, you are sowing seeds into his life. You may not see the fruits now but soon when you meet him, you will recognize him by the prayers  you have made for him. 

With Love,


Remain blessed!!! ❤❤❤



The author also wrote a journal – Prayers for your future husband journal which was birth from the main book “Prayers for your future husband”. It consists of  a 21-day prayers for your future husband challenge. Visit her page – for more inquiries.